The One Good Man sees in Woman what men lack. Woman is bright and charming and good. Men are dark and sinister and bad.<\/p>\n
To maintain the image of Woman as bright and charming and good, the One Good Man swallows Her darkness. Her rages, Her excesses, Her cruelties are his responsibility, not Hers. All Her goodness is not chosen because She is helpless in Her goodness\u2014as She is helpless in Her femininity.\u00a0 But because it is not chosen, it is not goodness and it feeds nothing in the One Good Man.<\/p>\n
Without shadow there is no depth.<\/p>\n
He craves dimension and he receives only bright, charming images as thin as a whisper. To compensate he tries to capture as many as he can, but they flit through his fingers like sunlight and his hunger grows.<\/p>\n
He needs a Harem.<\/p>\n
The politician signs into law one-sided advocacy that ignores the pain of men to help women: Domestic Violence, Rape, Sexual Harrassment, it doesn\u2019t matter. He sees it all as an avenue to destroy his competitors and win an adoring harem, even if it\u2019s only the myth of himself in his own mind. He is the One Good Man, good because of his influence, which he uses to advance women.<\/p>\n
The family judge eviscerates his rival\u2014a father and husband\u2014and in the woman\u2019s approval he sees another adoring harem member. He knows that her husband has failed her otherwise why would she be here before him? But he won\u2019t fail her. He is the One Good Man, good because of his power, which he uses to benefit women.<\/p>\n
The priest condemns the imperfect morality of his flock\u2019s husbands and in their admiration he sees a harem. He knows the church women are there to hear his words and uses them to throw petty sins of their husbands into high relief. He won\u2019t fail them. He is the One Good Man, good because of his morality, which he uses to lionize women.<\/p>\n
The petty bully brutalizes a smaller boy, cheered on by girls. The girls have a grievance; the boy presumed to ask one of them out, or maybe he was staring at her breasts too long? He won\u2019t fail them. He is the One Good Man, good because of his strength, which he uses to avenge women.<\/p>\n
The One Good Man sees all other men as feckless, immoral, weak, beneath him. The One Good Man is good because he knows he is the only good man. He is special. He regales of stories of his goodness, all with the same refrain: \u201cI have used my strengths to woman\u2019s service, I have crushed men so that women may walk upon them.\u201d And thus he is deserving of the admiration and approval of many women. He has a Harem. But that is not enough.<\/p>\n
The One Good Man has enemies.<\/p>\n
The One Good Man hates the Hungry Man because they are the same man. The Hungry Man hungers for women\u2019s bodies; The One Good Man hungers for their approval. The Hungry Man says, \u201cwomen\u2019s only use is their sex.\u201d And the One Good Man disagrees because a woman\u2019s only use is their approval. That\u2019s why the One Good Man cannot allow himself to see Woman\u2019s shadow; because if he did, she might not approve.<\/p>\n
Hungry Man and One Good Man are the same man, but they will never admit it. Hungry Man says he does not care for women\u2019s approval, yet he needs it to access her sex; One Good Man says he does not care for a woman\u2019s sex, but it\u2019s her sex that makes her approval worth so much.<\/p>\n
Both the Hungry Man and the One Good Man fear the Bad Man, perhaps better called the Broken Man, for he is the Hungry Man having fed too little and the One Good Man having swallowed too much.<\/p>\n
The Bad Man says \u201clook, Woman has a shadow! A shadow that She casts, not me! Every shadow is Hers!\u201d<\/p>\n
The One Good Man hates the Bad Man\u2019s words; he points to an obvious flaw: \u201cSome of those shadows are cast by you!\u201d and dismisses the greater truth.<\/p>\n
The One Good Man has a final enemy; and this one is most insidious of all because he is part of the One Good Man, the Hungry Man and the Bad Man.<\/p>\n
He is just a man. Not a bad man, not a good man, not a \u201creal man\u201d or a fake man, not a strong man or a powerful man or an aggressive man or a useful man or a useless man. Just a man. A man who sees that words like good, strong, bad, real, fake, powerful, useless and useful are just words the One Good Man uses to divide himself from other men, to make himself special and thus worthy of his Harem.<\/p>\n
The man, just a man, sees a woman as just a woman. She is made of light, and shadow in equal measure to the light, and so she has depth and form and substance.\u00a0 When she hurts him he says \u201cyou have hurt me. You take responsibility for it. I will not take responsibility for having been hurt.\u201d And if she does, he stays, because she feeds him.<\/p>\n
With shadow, there is depth.<\/p>\n
He does not need a Harem. And so he does not need to hate or hurt other men to have a Harem.<\/p>\n
He is not the One Good Man. The Bad Man or the Hungry Man.<\/p>\n
He is a man, just a man.<\/p>\n