{"id":3699,"date":"2013-12-17T14:30:44","date_gmt":"2013-12-17T22:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.genderratic.com\/?p=3699"},"modified":"2014-10-23T18:18:10","modified_gmt":"2014-10-23T18:18:10","slug":"its-shit-like-this-feminists-if-you-want-to-talk-about-rape","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/2013\/12\/17\/its-shit-like-this-feminists-if-you-want-to-talk-about-rape\/","title":{"rendered":"IT\u2019S SHIT LIKE THIS, FEMINISTS – If you want to talk about rape\u2026.."},"content":{"rendered":"

We have some tips for you.<\/p>\n

There are a couple of things you should try to avoid\u2026.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t engage in rape denial, rape erasure and rape apology<\/strong> \u2013 Don\u2019t try to insist that the overwhelming majority of rapists are male, so as to cover up female rapists; don\u2019t deny that women are socially enabled to apply much greater sexual coercion \u2013 gay-shaming, claiming if the guy doesn\u2019t want it he\u2019s insulting them or hates women – to men than men can on women; don\u2019t deny that male rape victims get ignored, erased and that their rapes are often dismissed by law enforcement.<\/p>\n

And when it comes to the matter of consent, please, please don\u2019t make the mistake of indulging in dehumanizing, sexist stereotypes that claim that men are all sexual animals who want sex all the time 24\/7, so that a woman can just\u00a0have sex with a man anytime she feels like it, because he’s in some kind of permanent state of consent. And please don\u2019t indulge in the peasant ignorance of basic biology that claims that an erection equals consent. Because either of those will just make you look like stupid and hateful and not really\u00a0worth discussing this with.<\/p>\n

Feminists have done such good work getting everyone to see that non-consensual sex is rape; please don\u2019t go and shit on all of that.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to say that female-on-male rape is so rare as to be insignificant<\/strong>, that it is such an anomaly that it really doesn\u2019t merit much attention, or worse yet, that talking about female-on-male rape is just a ploy to divert attention from women who are raped, “the real victims of rape”. Instances of female-on-male rape and sexual aggression are in no way anomalous.<\/a><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to\u00a0 claim that men categorically cannot be raped because rape is a crime of power and men have all the power<\/strong>.\u00a0That will\u00a0just makes you look ridiculous to anyone who has lived as a man for more than a week.<\/p>\n

And don’t try to claim that being made to penetrate is somehow any less of a rape than being penetrated<\/a>. That’s just noxious sexist bigotry, and it’s probably not a comparison you’re in any position to make anyway. Also please don’t try to claim that very influential people have insisted on this very distinction and succeeded in getting it recognized as authoritative<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to insist that rape is socially condoned and ignored<\/strong> \u2013 Don\u2019t claim there is a \u201crape culture\u201d in a society where rape is punished almost as severely as murder<\/a>, where accused rapists are denied specific Constitutional guarantees, and where there is a bloody history of rape accusations being used in the service of racist terrorism and oppression, resting on a cultural valuation of women\u2019s bodies as sacrosanct, because it puts you in nasty, nasty, nasty company and can even suggest you may be a nasty, nasty, nasty fellow traveler.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to deny that false rape accusations are a real problem<\/strong> \u2013 Don\u2019t advocate for policies at schools that enable anonymous accusations without any provision for verification<\/a>, don\u2019t deny that people accuse other people of rape for all kinds of spurious reasons for completely self-serving ends, or that they can and quite have had quite deadly consequences. So please don\u2019t try to claim that a false rape accusation is somehow less serious than an actual rape.<\/a> And when people advocate for reasonable penalties for false rape accusers, don\u2019t come up with every squirmy prevarication and distortion <\/a>you can to argue against that.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to insist that when a woman rapes a boy it is somehow not as harmful to him as when a man rapes a girl<\/strong>. I hope this doesn\u2019t require any explanation<\/a>, but that\u2019s just a disgusting thing to even say.<\/p>\n

And last and most important:<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to monopolize the discussion<\/strong> \u2013 Don\u2019t assume rape is a feminist issue or that the issue belongs to feminists, or to women, and that you as a feminst have some special insight into the problem that others don\u2019t, because that just shows very clearly how little insight into the problem you do have.<\/p>\n

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This is really simple \u2013 simple gender equality \u2013 just make an effort to regard and assess female and male victims and perpetrators the same way, by the same standards, without special exemptions and excuses for rape. It is simple but very difficult, because it will mean jettisoning everything traditional society has taught you about gender relations and rape. And don\u2019t be surprised to find a lot of those traditionalist assumptions embedded even in your feminism.<\/p>\n

We can finally start to have some productive discussion about rape, but it is going to take some work. Some of us really\u00a0have some\u00a0trash to take out\u00a0before that discussion can get under way.<\/p>\n

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We have some tips for you. There are a couple of things you should try to avoid\u2026. Don\u2019t engage in rape denial, rape erasure and rape apology \u2013 Don\u2019t try to insist that the overwhelming majority of rapists are male, so as to cover up female rapists; don\u2019t deny that women are socially enabled to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":151800,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"libsyn-item-id":0,"libsyn-show-id":0,"libsyn-post-error":"","libsyn-post-error_post-type":"","libsyn-post-error_post-permissions":"","libsyn-post-error_api":"","playlist-podcast-url":"","libsyn-episode-thumbnail":"","libsyn-episode-widescreen_image":"","libsyn-episode-blog_image":"","libsyn-episode-background_image":"","libsyn-post-episode-category-selection":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_use_thumbnail":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_use_theme":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_height":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_width":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_placement":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_use_download_link":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_use_download_link_text":"","libsyn-post-episode-player_custom_color":"","libsyn-post-episode-itunes-explicit":"","libsyn-post-episode":"","libsyn-post-episode-update-id3":"","libsyn-post-episode-release-date":"","libsyn-post-episode-simple-download":"","libsyn-release-date":"","libsyn-post-update-release-date":"","libsyn-is_draft":"","libsyn-new-media-media":"","libsyn-post-episode-subtitle":"","libsyn-new-media-image":"","libsyn-post-episode-keywords":"","libsyn-post-itunes":"","libsyn-post-episode-itunes-episode-number":"","libsyn-post-episode-itunes-season-number":"","libsyn-post-episode-itunes-episode-type":"","libsyn-post-episode-itunes-episode-title":"","libsyn-post-episode-itunes-episode-author":"","libsyn-destination-releases":"","libsyn-post-episode-advanced-destination-form-data":"","libsyn-post-episode-advanced-destination-form-data-enabled":"","libsyn-post-episode-advanced-destination-form-data-input-enabled":false,"libsyn-post-episode-premium_state":"","libsyn-episode-shortcode":"","libsyn-episode-embedurl":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[238],"tags":[269,262,273,348,263,282,99,267],"coauthors":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3699"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3699"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3699\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/151800"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3699"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3699"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3699"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.honeybadgerbrigade.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/coauthors?post=3699"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}