Toysoldier has a good post up that highlights a double standard in advocacy. In his post he quotes a piece of a larger comment by Joanna Schroeder that attacks men who have been molested or raped by women as boys by demanding to know what concrete help they are giving male DV victims. He points out that this criterion is never applied to those decrying violence against women.
She says in her exasperated comment on this post “6 Things Men Can Do to Help Prevent Violence Against Women”:
“You want to talk more about awareness of women abusing men? Then DO SOMETHING about it other than complain and antagonize in a thread dedicated to a poster that is designed to HELP PEOPLE HELP each other.
When I see you three actually working for domestic abuse organizations, even if you wrote stories for GMP about it (I, myself, publish these pieces with some regularity, I even seek them out) then I’d have more respect for this stuff.
Instead, I see a group of men saying that a group of men who want to help men help women is somehow hurting you.”
Joanna Schroeder is not stupid, so she is being disingenouous when she fails to see that terms such as “violence against women” does actively hurt male victims of DV because it has had the effect of erasing them entirely, at least so far. So far there is no law specifically focused on Violence Against Men, and in fact the law that does exist can itself be used as an instrument of abuse against male partners of men. It is still very difficult to get people to see that women are capable of abusing men. She starts the comment off by saying as much with her business about how a 180 lb/ man can never really be abused by a 100 lb. woman. (see below)
Further up the thread she says this in an exchange:
Women are starting DV more often than men, and that is a huge problem especially when the violence is reciprocal, so some women are actually helping to cause their own victimization.
Archy, this smacks of victim-shaming.”
Victim-shaming? Who’s the victim here, the woman who initiates the violence? Well of course she is, at least in Joanna’s mind, because sexist pig that she is, the woman is always the victim, even when she’s victimizing a man and he dares to defend himself.
So along with everything else Joanna is a domestic violence apologist. She thinks it’s fine for a woman to initiate violence against man in that she appears to think he is always wrong for defending himself from. That licenses and enables domestic violence. It’s that simple.
As dungone says “Only a cowardly bully would come up with an idea like that.”
And then she doubles down on this:
“Danny – if a 100lb woman hits a 180 lb man, let’s say she slaps him, is he justified in punching, choking or killing her?
Because that’s the reality we’re talking about. “
What she is saying that no matter what that 100 lb. woman does, and most likely she will be using a weapon; that’s right, how we don’t lie and say she is “slapping him”, that 180 lb. has no right to lift a hand to defend himself.
And these are the feminists that think they are trying to help men. And they wonder where the stereotype of the man-hating feminist comes from.
Oh, and the seventh thing men can do to protect women from DV is to protect them for their girlfriends, because DV in lesbian relationships is at least as common as in straight relationships – and no mention of that anywhere in the article.
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- “Not my kid….” - February 22, 2016