Had a thought about faking orgasm recently.
In a How a Limp Dick Can Save the World I quoted a male comedian who gave lie to the idea that women give men orgasms. He described one method men give themselves orgasms while having sex with women.
I also described a man from a forum I once frequented saying:
I’m going to start doing what women do, I’m only going to have an orgasm when my partner gives me one.
Two commentators went on to remark:
This was what really struck me. I’d honestly never really thought too deeply about it until now but… damn, but it’s true. Even when being given a beej I’ve always taken care to ensure that I orgasm. I’m always pushing myself to regulate my orgasm, to control when it happens, how it happens, if it happens, etc and so on.
I never thought about it that way. but, as has been pointed out already, it’s true. I always thought I was responsible for both the woman’s orgasm AND my own. I wonder how widespread this mindset is amoung men.
Seems to me that there are two types of faked orgasms: faking the actual physical response and faking that the actual physical response is a result of your partner rather then your own efforts.
A survey on orgasm faking found a majority of women faked the actual physical response and a significant minority of men did as well.
If a survey ever asked if responders fake making their partner think they’d given them an orgasm, I wonder what it would find?
My guess is that it would find upwards of ninety percent of men fake upwards of ninety percent of the time.
Right now I’m thinking of all the smug, sanctimonious rhetoric around women ‘faking orgasm’–all the ways men have been shamed for not being adequate lovers en masse–and I’m having a bit of a chuckle.
Anyway, open thread. Have at.
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